They say the first stage of adoption is loss.
The birth parents are coping with the loss of their child.
The adoptive parents are, perhaps, coping with the loss of
having their own biological child and also having to help the adoptive child,
sometime or other, navigate the loss of his or her birth parents.
I read somewhere (on a blog, I think) that if adoption was
your second choice, you should not adopt. This pisses me off. There is not
first and second choice when it comes to children. There is only one- love
them. We just don’t get to choose to love our own.
Adoption is not our second
choice; it is our only choice.
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